The argument over gay/same-sex marriage
rages on to the point people are losing their jobs – as in the case
of Mozilla CEO, Brendan
Eich who was forced to resign for his contributions to Prop 8 in
California(essentially banning gay marriage). In every war there are
civilian casualties – in this one the greatest casualty might be
that of speech and those who love one another. This battle has put
family members at odds with one another.
Let's
talk a little about marriage itself. For the first half of this
country's history people simply went to their priest or priestess,
depending on the religion, for their marriage or hand-fasting. In
some cases couples simply cohabited. These unions were often recorded
in the family bible, along with the names of future children. When
government began keeping records, this is where they went for
information.
After
the slaves were freed, and sometimes before in free areas, government
began to notice that black and white couples were getting married.
There were those who thought this joining might tarnish white
purity. For that reason they began passing laws to forbid these
unions. It was for this reason government decided to take over
marriages from religious organizations. There were instances where
government forbade those of different faiths to marry.
Today
a marriage performed by a government bureaucrat, or one by a priest
or priestess, are equally legal. The government decides who can or
can't take part in these government sanctioned marriages. They decide
who can take part in the privileges set aside for those married
couples. A Chief Justice noted 1500 regulations and laws that pertain
only to married people.
A
marriage was intended to be something much more personal than a set
of government privileges. A marriage is suppose to be about the
communing of two lives. It is about two people falling in love and
joining for the rest of their lives. Marriage is not about the
potential for children, but two people who wish to show a commitment
to one another. A marriage is the promise of life together. Many
children are produced outside of marriage.